Every woman produces ejaculatory fluid. It differs from urine, and comes from the Skene’s gland sometime around orgasm. Now, does that mean every woman can squirt like a fountain? No. Most women can’t.

For most women, this glandular fluid amounts to being a wet spot on the bed. Some women produce a wet gush or obvious squirt. Because the glandular openings (they are near the urethral opening) are deeper inside the vagina, most women produce a small amount of fluid with each out stroke of the fingers, penis or toy. Still other women produce very little fluid at all.

Sometimes, people want to associate squirting with orgasms, but that is not always the case. A woman can produce this fluid before, during or after an orgasm. All she needs is enough fluid in her urethral sponge and the right kind of pressure on her G-spot. That pressure can come from her muscles, fingers, a toy, a penis or even a particular position.

There is no one way a woman is supposed to respond when it comes to sex. Some women have a lot of control over when they will squirt and others have no control whatsoever. Whether you produce almost no fluid, a wet spot or squirt like a fountain, I want to make it very clear that you are perfect.

Now that you know about the healthy variables of response, you may be able to improve your (or your partner’s) odds of squirting. Of course, your first goal should always be to have fun. Focus on playing and exploring, and try variations on this technique to see what the female body can do.